Or no veil? Or maybe a small veil? Or maybe just a nice flower in my hair? Or nothing at all-- just a nice updo?
I still haven't decided 100 percent.
But here's the story of the hunt for the perfect head cover.
When I tried on The Dress, (referenced in the previous post here) the gal helping me brought out a veil to complete the look and help me make a decision. The veil did not help. It looked stupid. I hated it.
So she found a different one, a Russian or bridal birdcage veil. Again, not me. She found another veil that was about elbow length and definitely had a better shape, but I still felt stupid.
My Wedding Gown Shopping Entourage helped scour the store for something that would be the perfect touch to go with the absolutely gorgeous gown, and so did the sales girl. They came up with a few things that looked pretty. One was my favorite, but it was too white to go with the dress. It was an alligator clip silk flower type fascinator.
But I still wasn't really satisfied with it.
I kind of wanted a veil, but I was going for a sophisticated and unique look. I'm an older bride, so I didn't want the tiara, and I didn't want to look like a granny trying to be a Cinderella. I left the store with nothing for my head.
I got back online and started looking again. I found some really cool things on Etsy. I found fascinators and caps, I found jeweled hairpieces, and all sorts of things. But I decided that I really did want a veil after Chuck made a comment that my hair style wouldn't probably matter so much because my hair would be covered up by a veil anyway. That's when I realized he was envisioning me walking down the aisle, and that vision included a veil. And it wasn't that I hated veils, I just didn't like the ones I had tried on.
So as I browsed Etsy.com, I tried to find something that I thought would look better than a tiara and poof veil. Here's one of them, and not the one I ordered. If you love this one, I found it here. There were several different Juliet Caps on the Gilded Shadows Etsy site at the time I was browsing, and I started to fall in love with them.
I wrestled with which one I really loved, and I mean I really wrestled. I kept the photos of these veils in my favorites list on Etsy for weeks. I would look at them and decide on one, then sleep on that decision and look at it the next day and decide on a different one. I finally settled on one and contacted the seller to see if she could customize the veil for me. She was absolutely great to work with and I received the veil(s) exactly as I ordered them.
(Disclaimer. Neither the owners of Etsy.com, nor the owner of Gilded Shadows know that I'm posting this. I did not receive any goods or services at a discounted rate, nor did Etsy.com or the owner of Gilded Shadows give me anything for free. I am posting this of my own free will to document our wedding plans, and to share information with readers about the process of shopping for a veil for myself.)
For those of you who haven't bought a veil lately, they are pricey. In bridal shops they are super expensive, and the one I ordered on Etsy wasn't what I would call inexpensive, but I do love it. I didn't want that cheap, crunchy, stiff veil feeling, and the ones I received are beautiful and soft.
I decided that because my gown is timeless, yet couture, I wanted a dramatic head cover. Once again, not a Cinderella look, but elegant and sophisticated. And I wanted the veil to be really long. My train is cathedral length, so I wanted the veil to be that length also. But then, what if I got tired of dragging it around at the reception. Maybe I needed two layers of veil, one long and one shorter. And I needed them all separate so I could have the choice to wear one and not the other.
I ordered a cathedral length veil separate from the cap, and asked her to make a second veil that is elbow length, also separate, in case I didn't like the longer one, or wanted to change to a shorter one for the reception.
It didn't take long for the package to come in the mail, but as I waited I knew that if it came and I hated it, I would just resell it and find another option. As soon as it arrived I couldn't wait to try it on and see if it, too, felt stupid. It didn't. I loved it. But I want to wait to make the final decision on whether it really works once I go for the dress fitting.
Next Post: The reception venue
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